Here are some Q/A’s from a conversation I recently had with a man who wanted to share his views, after I told him about this blog. He instantly asked for the web addy, so that he, too, could learn more about women. he he he

Q. Why does society deem it acceptable for a man to date a younger woman, but unacceptable for a woman to date a younger man?
A. Society will always see the man as the bread winner, the main supporter, the head of household, the strong one. He lives his life learning how to work, support and raise a family, and take care of everything. At one point in his life, after he feels he has achieved his goals, he may turn his focus on his morality, his physical health, and having more fun. Some men reassure themselves by dating younger women because it helps them bring back their youthful energy, drives, etc. Basically, it’s an ego booster. By an older man dating a younger woman, it also tells other men that he has accomplished his goals.

When a woman goes out into society with a much younger man, that younger man is not viewed the same as the man mentioned above. He hasn’t lived his life long enough to earn the respect/acknowledgement of his life experience. Therefore, he is just viewed as “eye candy” on an older woman’s arm. Everyone knows she’s with him for the sexual aspect. The situation is kind of reversed… this older woman is the man mentioned above, who has accomplished her goals, is independent, self-sufficient, and now wanting some fun for herself.

Q. What assumptions go through a man’s head when a woman (in a relationship) doesn’t want to have sex?
A. That she’s tired, or stressed out. But if she says ‘no’ more than a few times, on different occassions, I would assume that she was seeing someone else.
Q. Why would you assume that? Why wouldn’t you instead ask her if anything was bothering her? Or maybe try to find out why she didn’t want to have sex?
A. Most women just say, “Nothing’s wrong.” They won’t elaborate, or talk about it. Then it makes the man feel like she’s hiding something, so he just assumes it has to be something terrible. Otherwise, I do ask… if she’ll answer. Women keep saying how badly they want us to communicate with them, but then they won’t communicate with us when it’s their turn to talk. (He had a good point there, ladies!)

I had to ask this one!
Q. Why is it that men always ask the woman first where something is, before they’ll even look for it themselves?
A. (laughing) Because women always know where it is! Women are usually the ones who clean the house, put things away, are more organized, and have memories that never fail. It’s always easier to just ask her, than it is to waste time looking. (Okay, I asked, he answered!)

Q. What draws you to a woman?
A. Her smile, eyes, the way she carries herself, the way she dresses. Oh yeah, every guy in the room will look at a woman who is dressed “slutty,” but he’ll also dismiss her very quickly. But show a guy a woman who is dressed classy, or sexy, and carries herself well… and he’ll try to instantly figure her out, wonder what she’s like, and let his imagination run about what she’s wearing underneath. We’re men, that’s how we are.

There you have it… one man’s views.