Is intimacy overrated? Can you have a sexual relationship without all the bells and whistles of intimacy?
Sex when it’s boiled down to basics is really just a body function (albeit a very nice one!). However, there are other things involved with it…hormones, emotions, love, lust, attraction, body image, self esteem, comfort…I imagine that list can go on.
When you factor in all the above, it makes it seem like there needs to be a degree of intimacy in order to really be able to ‘let go’ and enjoy yourself. I mean, can you really concentrate on how great you feel if you are wondering about your thighs in the lighting?
But then again, if there is no intimacy…do you care what your thighs look like?
I’ll admit, I’ve been married for…oh, a long time! I am ‘out of the loop’ on modern sexual and dating practices. I am interested in your thoughts and perceptions on the topic of intimacy…
Please comment, let’s get a dialog going! I look forward to your responses. (And yes, I want to hear from women AND men!!)
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August 4, 2008 at 10:37 pm
ugottalaugh
I tried having a physical relationship, without intimacy, but it didn’t last long. I think it depends on how much time you spend with the other person, or how long the relationship lasts. It’s hard to NOT get involved emotionally & be intimate after a while.
I do fully agree about intimacy & being able to “let go,” but maybe it’s a different kind of letting go? For instance, it can be quite easy to let go of your inhibitions in a purely sexual relationship, because you’re not fearing any judgement, like you said. But it’s another thing to let go once you start getting involved.. then your ‘heart’ enters the picture. Make sense? :)
I look forward to reading others’ comments!